Me and my girlfriend are doing long distance due to being at different colleges, and ever since i started Khan St1 it seems like the relationship is slowly falling apart. It’s partly due to her new anti depressants she started taking, and it makes her into an emotionless zombie it feels like. Does Khan st1 have anything to do with this?
Youre healing stuff. It can cause clash. It doesnt mean you will break up as long as you are patient, understanding of her and in control over your emotions. Calm your mind. Talk things out politely and get to the bottom of it. These are the times where you forge your relationship into a stronger one. You clean up all the dirty and dusty corners that were there up until now. When you can both have a respectful conversation and deal with things together, you get greater and more unbreakable bond than all the people who were too scared to do that and instead ignored those wounds or broke up.
Its a gift and with time looking back, youll recognize that.
Address the issue, make her feel loved while you do it and try to solve it together. Maybe suggest her a sub. See how she reacts. See if she wants to change anything. See if she cares enough to do so at first after you addressed to her how you had been feeling lately. Move from there.
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Long distance is hell. Depending on your situations, locations, cultural backgrounds and upbringings, chances will be slim. Doesn’t mean it won’t workout, but its difficult on multitude of levels. Don’t neglect her or disappear for a long time. This goes both ways.
Talk to her. Have a conversation with her and lay it all out.
Also, breakups are usually the specialty of WB/W.
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I tried it long distance with my high school girlfriend when I went to college. It didn’t work, and I harmed my development as a person by trying to hang on, and I wasn’t running a mind altering powerhouse like Khan. Or for that matter any subliminal because they didn’t exist in anything like the form they do now.
The changes you’ll experience will be much more profound.
If you do anything to get in the way of that, like hang on to something that doesn’t fit with the new you that is emerging, it won’t be pleasant. Trust me.
I’m not saying you should necessarily break up with her, but live your life where you are and enjoy it. And if it’s ending, let it go and move on to something better. You’re becoming the MFing Khan in college. The possibilities are endless.
By the way, if this is your first subliminal experience, I’d suggest stopping and running Ascension for six months to a year.
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You have to describe what exactly is causing the relationship to slowly fall apart. Are you losing interest because she doesn’t seem as outwardly happy due to the anti-depressants?
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Causing some issues to arise in mine as well. What I’ve found is that it brings up issues in the relationship that are not up to your ideal standard of how it should be, and you either have to go through horrible recon, address it, or end the relationship.
Last evening I was frustrated by us not having sex enough recently, and it was something I just had to address and bring up, knowing that it could make it worse, but also knowing that I could not continue in the relationship if nothing changed. Personally I’d rather just confront it directly then try and force intimacy all the time and make her play guessing games on why I’m in a bad mood 
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We have alot of factors here, that I would personally say can shake things up in a relationship or in anybody’s psyche I would say.
- Distant relationship
- Depression
- Big change/transition (college)
- College
- Mental health
- Medicine
- Khan ST1
These are just what you mentioned. But it’s tough things brother. I wouldn’t “suspect” Khan though unless this is something you want or need to deal with deep down. Like a challenge for personal growth. Only you can figure it out because it’s personal.
Overall all these factors can be challenging, so make sure to take care of yourself.
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maybe Khan ST1 causes you to leave situations that are holding you back from truly being a Khan, if they were initiated based on any neediness/loneliness.
You might need to get rid of this relationship in order to find something way better.
just a thought.
I got fired from a job shortly after KhanST1 and I was miserable at first, but, it opened the way to much much better things - I’m glad that happened
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I appreciate all of y’all for the help, i think i’m gonna do what i can but honestly not stress abt it. If it’s meant to be gone it’s meant to be gone
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It takes everything to get through a long distance relationship. My wife and I had 4.5 yr one during college. You have to really want it bad enough to go through the rollercoaster hell it is.
This is how I got through it.
Long distance tips:
- Communication!!! This is number one, you need to articulate your feelings, keep a conversation going. Having a habit of video calling during a certain day and time each week. Our marriage is strong because we built it on the foundation of this. (We also sexted quite a bit to be the romance going)
- NEED an end date: knowing it will end gives you an extra bit of strength you didn’t have
- Visit as much as possible. If you can’t try and do some sort of virtual date.
- Trust, you have to trust that other person and they have to trust you.
-Desire to make it through. You have to want it to work just about more than anything in the world. This is what’s going to pull you through your darkest loneliest hours. - Friends: Friends are a great distraction and give you that human need of belonging.
If you are already thinking that you can take it or leave it and really believe that, then I think you have your answer. Neither of you deserve to settle. If that’s something you are saying to yourself to protect yourself, then you should figure out a way to make it work.
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Toxic Psychiatry by Dr. Peter Breggin might give you some insights on this.
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