Dealing with toxic workplace

Questions and Comments
#1

Hello I’ve been using a custom for over a month.

  1. Hom core
  2. Eog st1 core
  3. Rich crypto core
  4. Nwe core
  5. True sell
  6. Attachment destroyer
  7. Ebon maneuver
  8. Pragya
  9. Pride unbroken
  10. Immortal’s blade
  11. Immortal’s courage
  12. Boundary
  13. Victory’s call
  14. Serum X
  15. Synergy: winner overdrive
  16. Synergy: Carpe vitam
  17. Stop porn and masturbation
  18. Diligence
  19. Sanctuary
  20. Divine dominion

For context I’m working as a headwaiter in a fine dining restaurant. And what I’ve noticed is that many people from stuff and even customers were triggered when I put boundaries and were trying to attack me. Also because of attachment destroyer I ended up having bad relationship with many high status stuff in my job because they are toxic and I started ignoring them energetically. And the worst part is that because of ebon maneuver so many people were talking behind my back and it got to a point where even the manager was going against me because people were going behind my back talking shit about me to him. So for me it was not a good experience at all and since I cannot change my job right now I stopped this custom because I realized I need to have a good relationship with these people for now even if they are toxic because I depend on them. so I’m going to change my custom accordingly

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#2

Wanting to maintain a good relationship with toxic people just to have “peace” is, in my opinion, the wrong approach.

It sounds to me like you might be heading in a direction that moves you away from what you’ve been fighting for in recent months.

That you deserve to be treated with respect and appreciation, and that no one should play games with you.

I know this feeling—the “I should take it down a notch.” But deep down, I know: that can’t be good.

Even if you depend on this job, you have the right to say that you won’t be treated that way.

If you make an exception at work, it can happen that you make more “exceptions.” In relationships, with friends, family—everywhere.

Starting to enforce your boundaries with consequences is hard—damn hard. But denying yourself is even harder.

At first, everyone acts crazy because they’re not used to you standing up for yourself. Believe me, I know.

People talking behind my back? I know that too well.
Spreading things about me that are meant to hurt me and those I love? I know that too well.
Trying to make my life difficult? I know that too well.

It takes a lot of strength and courage not to give up now. More than just willpower. Love for yourself. For the things that matter to you.

Ask yourself whether it feels right to risk the progress you’ve made so far—or whether, even if it’s uncomfortable right now, you stand up for yourself and build a life with people who show you respect, honor, love, and appreciation.

Give this some serious thought. Your emotions and feelings are all over the place right now. Old patterns mean security. Security means comfort. Comfort means warmth. And warmth is a pleasant feeling.

The new, the unknown, is often cold, scary, and confusing. That’s completely normal. It’s okay. But only if we’re willing to change something in our lives can we live the life we truly want.

There’s no middle ground. All or nothing.

I don’t want to lecture you—I want to show you that you deserve so much better. And deep down, you already know that.

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#3

Get a new job lol
When you can
It will be easier than trying to change everyone else around you

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#4

This. Sounds like your boundaries have been weak, or close to non-existent beforehand if you receive such strong reactions and you are already outgrowing your environment.

To smooth everything out until then and have some form of damage control I´d recommend LBFH; I´ve always received tons of respect and affection on it. Different to WB, but on a similar scale.

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#5

Maybe Ascension can help

Or even stark can make them like you or help find a new job

#6

the classic antidote to disrespectful people is frame control. you have to just learn basic frame control. Everybody and all things are actively asserting frames into your life at all times because if they can get away with doing less, that is what will happen automatically without any question. So basic frame control is the idea, not adding drama to the story, not insisting you are the one who is right and you are better than these ‘fools’. None of that crap, that’s all cap, all crap, all fake. All drama. Stop feeding into it, getting triggered by it all day every day, etc.

Learn basic frame control.

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#7

Yes exactly I’m the one who never said no or put boundaries so when I did they thought I’m extreme or something since they’ve been used to.my weaker version.

#8

Already doing that brother but there’s still landmines

#9

Yeah you are totally right thank you for the support btw I’m not used to.that. I guess I do have to put my foot down more in a smart way or just leave and find another job. I had already booked an interview with a luxury hotel for fun and maybe have the door open to a very high paying job so I got to access the playing field correctly. I don’t want to be affected by toxic people knowing that I will have to put up with all their unhealed trauma. thank you again!

#10

you seem a little bit defensive, would be careful. Frame control isn’t about going back and forth with people, it’s about owning who you are and being grounded in your own validation and actually being incredibly proactive with your interactions with people. Just with your response here I can already tell you are way triggered, in your head, ego driven, prone to conflicts and going back and forth, overthinking, anxiety issues etc just keep it in mind :wink:

#11

I don’t think what I need is better frame control, it’s reputation building. It’s very hard to explain everything that is happening in one sentence

#12

okay good, so yeah frame control is actually how you build a reputation because frame control means you have boundaries and dont get walked all over???

(hint, theres a lot of ??? for a reason)

#13

Today my manager told me that people hate me here because he favours me and promotes me and they are jealous. Now it makes sense why they talk behind my back

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