Couples using subs

Questions and Comments
#1

I am curious how many people on here are actively listening to subs alongside their partners ?

What has helped you on the journey?

Especially when both are going through recon and/or deep healing work.

Thanks :pray:

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#2

Sex mastery a few times one-off. Nothing long-term though.

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#3

We have been listening together for a long time… each one its own stack.

There was a time in which both used Heartsong at the same time for a couple of cycles with great results. Also Diamond, Sex Mastery are subs we have used on and off together.

As for how we handle recon… She is a very patient woman, let me tell you that :rofl::rofl:.

Honesty… both with eachother and self honesty, talking things out and learning to comunicate in a way thats understandable for the other person.

Shared Values, finding out what its really important to us (personally and as a team) and building on that.

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#4

This.

Thank you :pray:

I’m a very patient woman as well.

My partner just started a stack recently & the recon had me almost break it off. I don’t want to do that though. :flushed: I wondered if maybe some people aren’t designed for subliminal usage.

I’ve made some suggestions. He’s going to connect daily with his psychotherapist & make sure he’s eating & drinking enough water, sleep, working out etc.

He said he feels he may need some more space during the cycles. That bothers me….

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#5

Tell him to run less loops hahaha 3-5 minutes usually gives less intense recon.

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#6

I understand… I need my alone time and my gf could be 24/7 with me… I explained to her why is important for me to be alone from time to time and how that is good for our relationship.
Having my personal time, makes it better when we are together.

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#7

Good idea. :pray:

#8

Likely prevents codependency!

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#9

I listened to GLM once and had such strong recon that I almost broke-off our relationship :grimacing: . It’s not really about subliminals in general, it’s how you react to certain titles due to the subconscious gunk you have inside of you being moved. Better to lower the length of the loop, increase rest days or increase washout days.

I have been listening to the subs from the company for a few years. My girl has been listening to them since December of last year. I ask for what she wants in her life and design her stack with her permission and input.

I remember watching an interview with a relationship expert. That when one or both parties are getting heated about an issue, that one of them must require a time-out and to talk again about the issue later, specifically saying what time they will do so. If one or both parties are still heated about it, they will request for an extension of time to talk about it. During the time-out session, they will focus on other things and not think about it.

So for example, let’s say I’m a little mad about the dishes. When either I or her feels this will escalate, the person in question will say something like “Let’s do a time-out and talk about this tomorrow at 4PM”. We will then focus on our own things. Maybe I’ll play video games while she watches the TV. We’ll cool down and once heads are cool, we can talk about the issue more calmly.

This has helped my relationship a lot during moments of recon. I suggest you try it out with your partner. Remember to not just leave without announcing a time to talk about the issue, walking out that way can cause feelings of abandonment.

Sidenote

Funny sidenote is that today I faced emotional recon and yesterday my girl listened to :speaking_head: True Sell. Halfway through our talk I realized she’s being really persuasive and calming me down due to the subliminal. Even when I realized this was :speaking_head: True Sell at work, I was still persuaded by what she’s saying since the logic is airtight. I will talk about this with her later since it’s both an interesting/funny story and it shows her how the subs are working without her conscious awareness. Moments like these are things you can do with your partner, where you discuss their effects in your daily lives.

Also, my girl had a dream about me winning big in gambling and me sending her big gifts afterwards. It could be due to me listening to :dna: Genesis and :moneybag: Mogul or it could be due to her listening to :money_with_wings: R.I.C.H or it could be both! Either way, I find discussing dreams to be an interesting way to look at the effects of subs and how they might affect each partner. That’s a fun thing you can do with your partner as well.

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#10

This is what I’ve started doing with him.

This is a great reminder. I forgot about this!
He will come at me intensely wanting to discuss whatever is bothering him & I’ll be in recon not having the energy or mental capacity for it. I’ll try this. Sometimes I feel the issue naturally resolved just by doing something as simple as what you suggested. Organically it comes up and resolved.

He is very new to subs & I’ve been using them for 2 years now. I also have a really great support from an experienced user here as well as feeling more comfortable with this forums support. He has opened up to his psychotherapist about this journey and has their support.

I’ve discovered through sub usage where I’d become my partners therapist or parent at times from my mental health background and childhood upbringing. I don’t desire that anymore.

I appreciate your suggestions and sharing of personal experiences. Thank you.

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#11

This right here. I used to do this when we first started dating with the unconscious thought that he thinks I’m crazy and being possessed. He would reflect that back to me thinking subs were taking over my mind and harming me.

I notice where I sense weird energy when I’m sharing my experiences with him.

I don’t want to think he’s suspicious or not being genuine with me.

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