I’m on a washout currently but one problem I have had for my entire life is my weird inability to stand up for myself. I absolutely suck at that as well as establishing firm boundaries and it’s making my life more and more unnecessarily difficult. I really want to address this before I try to take on anything else such as Emperor Daddy.
It’s difficult to be an Emperor when most of the time I feel like a coward
I’d suggest The Will to Power. I know it’s in the Emperor but this title is versatile and can be applicable in a variety of situations. Romantic, Professional, etc…
I was thinking that and maybe Ascension to start and then move to Emperor
I’m also going to start reading the 48 Laws of Power
Sounds good!
the stack of Emperor + Love Bomb + direct action for that works very well for me
I’ve had a few of extremely strong paradigm shifts lately which have boosted my assertiveness, confidence and ability to establish boundaries
I’ve started to consciously change the basis of my rights on life from “I wonder if I can get it, wouldn’t fighting for it be rude/arrogant/whatever…” to “I want, therefore I can and will fight for this”. And I’m making a conscious effort to fight for what I want. I want more money - I work more. I want more sex - I work on getting more sex. I want a better social circle - I tell toxic people to never speak to me again. “I want” is a good enough reason to do something (without harming yourself and anyone around). “I don’t want” is a good reason to not do something
Another thing is that I understood the power/dominance dynamics between people and now consciously putting myself to a higher “dominance rank” through assertive demeanor. Start by improving your body language - walk with your head a bit higher, shoulders back, etc.
EDIT: this is completely safe in modern world, yet gives your brain a strong signal that you can use “alpha” body language and no one does shit about it so you must be the “alpha”. For lack of a better term
It’s a lot of work but the main principle is that you must start fighting for your wants. Fighting socially, not physically (most of the time). Because when an 80 year old lady is able to push you arount and you are sucking it up because “you must respect the elderly”, you can’t imagine how much actual damage you are doing to your psyche. You are basically saying to your limbic system that you are below her on a dominance hierarchy. Of course you won’t be able to set up any boundaries - you are weaker than an 80 year old lady.
But the opposite thing is happening when you stand your ground and tell her to fuck off - you put her in place, affirmed the belief that you are not the weakest person in the room, protected your “wants”, etc.
That’s what I’ve been doing, practicing and learning lately. And my stack helps me to go through weeks and months of growth in the matter of days.
Why aren’t you moving to DRR2?
When I read the book, I read one chapter/Law per day. Then a small loop after while pondering that chapter/Law.
This will ABSOLUTELY help you assert yourself better.
Your interest in being assertive might even be a RESULT of DRR1. In which case, you need to recognize that your interest in assertiveness is a result of DRR1, and then take action on it, not switch subs to address it.
Ascension or Khan Stage 1
Yes, and please consider: