Day 12 rest
Just “free associating” for myself (might not be worth reading if you’re not me):
Thoughts and feelings should go into desires or things you’re excited about. The more thought and feeling you give a thing, the more power it has over you, so give it to things that if they went wrong, wouldn’t negatively affect you to high degree.
I feel almost resentful of things I give thought and feelings to that disappoint me, but then I realize I only feel resentful because I gave it thought and feeling that I, on some level, don’t feel it deserved.
Basically, don’t give anything enough attention and feeling that if it didn’t go your way, would negatively affect you emotionally to a high degree. Know yourself, as it’s said.
Also lower expectations. Expect less.
Don’t give your attention and feeling to anything that if it went south, would make you feel like you just wasted your time. THAT’S it.
Then again, I guess you could argue wisdom can be gained from anything.
Just putting thoughts down here. I’m a believer in changing the way you think can change the way you act, and thus your life, and to me it seems to require much less stress and energy.
SO, by recognizing when you’re putting thought and feeling into something that if it went bad, it would cause you high emotional turmoil or feel like time wasted, you can consciously stop and switch to thinking of your desires and things excited for. (“desires” are things that you want that, to you, are worthy enough to pursue that if they went bad, you would feel neutral at worst for trying and/or you know the wisdom to be gained from trying would be worth it)
The key is to catch yourself in the thoughts/feelings of the things that you determine to not be worthy of your thoughts/feelings, and again, switch to the desires/things excited for.
Intellectually I know the notion of “you can’t change people, you can only change yourself”, but right now I’m feeling it/experiencing it.
What’re you excited for today?