À la limite jouissance - KHAN

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#61

Today I’m meeting up with my partner to formally break up with her.

I can’t wait until Jan 10.

I have so much certainty that I now feel like I’m lying by not doing it now.

Listened to RoTNW for 1 min, as part of my stack, and 30s of WB because I have the most certainty about the break up on khan/WB, but I don’t want the anger/dominance of khan today.

WB will give me the certainty while also allowing for compassion and softness in the conversation

then I’m gonna go to a group dinner organized by the TimeLeft app, and turn on the WB/RoTNW charm 😜

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#62

Very curious on an update for this…

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#63

Yeah. Done.

The update is I listened to Love Bomb for 30s right after to heal some of my sadness.

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#64

It was sad. Nice convo.

I went over and talked to her about our break, shared some things I was struggling with this year and let her do the same.

Once I said I had made up my mind about breaking up, we both got sad. Sad is better than mad. We were sad with each other not mad at each other.

cried a bit, put our arms around each other the rest of the way home, and complimented each other, reminded each other we’re good people, that it was a values-based break up not a conflict based break up, thanked each other for the gifts of the relationship, and reminded each other it would be sad for a while.

Love Bomb really did shift me immediately out of a state of dejection into a bit more grounded place. But “grounded”’ doesn’t mean not effected. I feel burdened at the moment. Heavy.

Even if it’s the right thing to do, doing it was painful.

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#65

Ah man that made even me sad : (
Treat yourself!!! Chocolate and snacks, maybe a good movie and god knows what you want to do but usually cut on because of xyz. Also friends : ) it’s nice to be around people especially in these times. Hope you get to give yourself a nice pleasant break. You deserve every last bit of it.

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#66

Wow. Just this made me speechless, I haven’t ever ever heard that before , the level of maturity in how you’ve grown a lot. Really proud of you for that.

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#67

Date coming up tonight, seems a cute one. Vietnamese girl.

and Sunday, with a 20y/o I met online who said ”I’ll commute to your house no matter how far you live.”

and 2 lovely ladies out of town waiting till I’m back.

and another I’m making plans with who found out I broke up with my ex and said ”I’m down to do something fun if you wanna take your mind off the break”

:sob::pray::sweat_drops:

Went to a show, and on the train there was this baddie. I thought she was cute af but didn’t want to initiate. Just some polite small talk when she looked over my way, and, well… I have her IG now.

And it’s not just women. I’m focused. I’m applying for sales gigs I’m excited about - my hatred of the sales industry is gone, I’m excited again. Gym is going great, rebuilding my friend groups overall.

Khan. Growth is fast. My shins hurt I’m growing so much taller.

RoTNW, 25 seconds. Khan ST2, 10s.

Jouissance

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#68

That’s great you could do it that way.
How long were you together?

Congrats on the courage to do that and having built a relationship where you could do it that way.

#69

Just shy of 5 years

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#70

@Lion height enhancer!

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#71

I was kidding, or, being metaphorical.

My soul is growing.

Also my PP.

Just kidding about that too.

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#72

Me asf rn

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#73

This Zan Perrion book is amazing.

Are you a pick up artist? no… Pick up artists are good at picking up phone numbers, not women. Well then, what are you? A romance artist. What’s the difference? Empathy.

With subliminals, the producers mentioned how listening to primal Romance could be counterproductive to seduction, because you would find yourself being seduced even more than the woman, perhaps… But in this book, the alabaster girl, the author is waxing poetically about how the art of seducing women is the art of allowing yourself to be seduced by them… Interesting

I feel really aligned with this authors notion that sex is not the goal, sex is the celebration of the connection, and the connection is the goal

But as he says… I am not your boyfriend or your husband… I am your lover

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#74

Heard about his book a lot. Just put it off always. Maybe I should give it a read

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#75

Nectar was extracted.

Can’t believe I’m saying that 🤦

but it’s a RoTNW report

Was super interesting to see how strong the aura and sexual shame reduction of RoTNW was. She had only been with 3 people in her life (at age 27!) :exploding_head: and she had never kissed someone on a first date before.

Yet there we were, right there in the back of my car, doing a whole lot more than kissing.

It was most interesting that in every other way, she was still extremely reserved. Before and after. But she went completely shameless for the act itself

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#76

Everything he said about RoTNW seems very true

Time to test PN soon :eyes: and I know exactly who to test it with

bolding was mine.

I agree with the idea that the pleasure of RoTNW is purely sensation-based. I haven’t ran PN, but I’ve ran WB, and Khan, and PR, and I know when a sub provides a hot and heavy lust - ROTNW doesn’t.

When I know a dynamic is sexually charged, PN makes a lot of sense, but for people who are just casually friends or not already sexual with, RoTNW removing those layers of resistance makes a lot of sense.

ROTNW to get out of the “friend zone” and PN for once you’re out, in a way.

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#77

I know lol, I was joking as well.

Curious of your experience with Khan on sales. My sales performance is stalled and seeing very little overall change month to month at this point , I’m still doing really well, at times insane performance but not the insane performance month in and out-like I was. (Partially the overall dynamic for the company though) I was at so thinking of just doing Khan regardless because of this. I value Khan for the ambition of engagement most.

Are you on Khan Stage 2 still?

It sounds like your social/romantic growth and confidence is primarily Khan with RotWN and WB a little social grease

#78
ROTNW effects on socializing, and comparing to PN

RoTNW might change others but I feel it has no effect on me. That’s what my comment on its lack of lust was about.

Whereas PN from what I understand adds masculinity to the conversation. Sexuality. Lust.

One regret I have about last night is that after ROTNW’s shamelessness wore off, her shame came back, and I could see her doing the mental math of right and wrong in her head.

ROTNW might have done this twice. I previously went to karaoke and microlooped WB/ROTNW. Had a connection with a girl. Had the opportunity to kiss her but didn’t. Then we had a call and she felt bad about how close our connection was (lots of hand holding, cuddling, and thigh grabbing) because of XYZ. Another example of shamelessness wearing off and being replaced by logic.

Gonna be implementing a rule: no sex or hook ups on the first date.

No sex on the first date, no hook up, just a kiss, then I give her a day to process. If she regrets the kiss, imagine how much more she’d regret doing more.

The only thing I’m looking for is a deep FWB connection where sex is the celebration of the friendship. A no strings attached romance that both parties are clear on.

That puts me in a great place. I would so much rather have July 2025 come around and have 6 really close female friends that I’m sexually attracted to, but not sleeping with, compared to having July 2025 come around and I have 6 women that I’ve slept with but now I don’t talk to.

My goal

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#79

So from your description, PN seems to be better than ROTNW

#80

Not better, for different goals.

PN makes sex very primal, full of passion and increase the horniness to the max, it makes the sex very animalistic.

RotNW makes you get sex easier, last longer, increase sensations in penis and while ejaculating.

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