Been trying to do cold approach for the last 3-4 weeks and been suffering from approach anxiety, hesitancy, shit body language, stress and general anxiety any time I went out with the intention to “socialize”
Yesterday I said screw it, I need to get back into cold approaching, and so i turned back to the sub that had me approaching women like a beast (WITHOUT EVEN PLANNING TO APPROACH) -
AKA Khan Stage 2.
And oh boy did it deliver.
I tried and failed approaching this girl that was studying before listening to Khan,
but an hour after Khan,
I went BACK to her and we had a 15 minute convo. She had a boyfriend but it was a nice chat. We clicked.
Then I cold approached 2 girls and was very blunt, “hey guys I think ur friend is super cute… small talk small talk small talk… hey I don’t wanna beat around the bush, do you wanna go on a date?” She was an enthusiastic yes. We’ll call her “Short Girl”
Then I cold approached another girl, in a mall-ish building, and we went on a 30 minute instant date and got a coffee/hot-cocoa together, it was only 20-25 minutes in that she started teasing me (in a flirtatious way) that I should have seen the ring on her finger. She was almost giving me “oh you bad boy” energy.
then I approached a tiktok’r i know that has 900k followers and is a total hottie. We walked and chatted down the street for about 10 minutes. TBH i was probably a bit in the “fan” energy but only because I entered in with that frame, maybe. Looking back on it maybe I should have just cold approached her with sexual intent not fan-energy-intent.
TODAY I went on a date with Short Girl and it was really really good. She’s 22, I’m 29. She was more worried her age would be a problem for ME than my age being a problem for her. Had some deep talks. God damn she has a nice booty. wow.
Mixed emotions about the date
But that date left me feeling like she is a very wholesome creature who seems like maybe she’s really looking for her person to marry and I’m definitely not - had some anxiety that maybe I should sabotage that and leave her alone - I communicated a bit of that to her on our date, and came to the realization (afterwards) that I can just not go in with expectations so long as i’m honest & communicating, but a bit of the stress is still there. Once I see her again and tell her what’s on my mind a bit, so that she knows and can choose to be with me if she wants (instead of me choosing “no” for her) i’ll be at ease.
other keywords here
fear of hurting people,
Fear of disappointing/expectations
fear of breaking a young girl’s heart
Fear of leading someone on if they think i’m dating for marriage but i’m actually just dating to date
prefering dating people jaded to relationships like me so the expectations are the same
I also felt like the date wasn’t very sexually charged, even though it COULD have been, the energy there but I was missing something - time to reintroduce ROTNW if I’m introducing Khan again
Nice of you to care I think as long as you straight about what you want, and people are not mislead- you can’t hurt anybody
I’m envious of this, I’m older then you 37 and have dated plenty, but almost miss that space. Now everything feels very partner-oriented, partially out of my desire as well.
What do you feel was missing? Nothing wrong with ROTNW but I feel like Khan should create plenty of sexually charge regardless. Maybe your concerns for her, diminished the sexual charge/flow.
Yeah… Definitely just my concerns for her… There were multiple moments where the energy screamed to kiss her but I had a barrier up.
I shut down really early last night and did a lot of meditation, I also use ChatGPT to lead me through some cognitive behavioural therapy around this…
Between those two I realize that I’m holding onto a little bit more guilt and blame than I thought around my past relationship.
I’m going to keep on worrying about hurting other people until I let this story go that I’m a bad person and hurt my partner by not marrying her.
Compounded by the fact that, even if I didn’t realize this at the time, short girl is the exact same age that my ex was when I met her, so some subconscious part of me was thinking that I would yet again be wasting another five years of a girl’s life and sending it down a trajectory she didn’t want to go down
Absolutely insane overthinking that I shouldn’t be listening to.
I’m a lot calmer and clearer after the meditation and journalling last night though.
Even found a little bit of my own anxious attachment coming up in this… Am I good enough based on experiences… Preoccupation with somebody else… Stuff like that to continue to work on.
It’s great how subliminals these days don’t just manifest mindsets, they also manifest experiences that will transform growth, so I’m definitely growing massively off this experience and even better. I already had a counselling session scheduled for this morning, I’m walking into that now. And basically the only thing me and my counsellor talk about is Relationships and attachment style.
I might have to accept that I’m very on/off with Khan because of how BIG it is and how the wealth scripting in it interferes with my goals for the wealth scripting from other alpha titles (hom mainly)
Primal seems to be a wonderful solution for me. A purely romance focused subliminal, especially given how much I’m focused on cold approach specifically.
That way I never have to cycle it on/off, either, and can pack a romance sub with all my favorites.
I was searching my old EmpD results SPECIFICALLY BECAUSE I WAS STARTING TO IMAGINE A Khan4/EmpD/ROTNW/NRE custom… and it turns out i’ve already thought of it before
Who following my thread has ran sex and seduction? Thoughts on results with it? @Realitysmith@RagnarLothbrok ? What is it like to run.
How is the “bedroom skills” scripting?
I’m thinking differently today - what if my dating custom was actually just much simpler than I previously intended, and I just ran ROTNW/SSX.
They both work on attracting women, and they both work on improving bedroom performance.
But please provide feedback on SSX.
If I ran SSX as a tester on its own, would I notice much? What would I notice, and how could I amplify that test? Is it good for cold approaching? Or more social groups? Something else?
The bedroom skills I can’t speak for, but I would say it helped make me a smooth “approacher”/conversationalist/flirt, like it helps with the “seducing” aspect.
I don’t think I’ve run it on its own (I’d like to try that), but you’d probably notice the above aspects. Oh, to amplify the test you could make it a point to approach at least 5 girls a day while running it lol, or run it with Wanted or WB (I always ran it with WB, though again I’d like to try it on its own or with OG Wanted). I’d say it’s good for social groups but better for approaching/flirting/seducing. Ah, another way to test it is try to keep talking to a girl even if she doesn’t seem very interested, like really try to milk the interaction just to see SSX results, know what I mean? Often the convo will get better or the girl will develop some interest.
Primal Seduction is a really interesting one. Thank you for pointing this out.
It matches my seduction style more than WB. Cold approaching, going out, being extroverted, sexualized environments.
And it’s more seduction specific than Khan. So I can run it 24/7 without fear of how it’ll affect my work life.
Those fears are likely unfounded but still - I’m only interested in Khan for the section benefits at the moment. My EOG/HOM custom gives me all the wealth scripting I could ever need, and if I need more drive, I’d run Exec.
Now… I do love ROTNW too… so the next thought in my mind is whether to start with a PS/ROTNW custom, or a PS name embed, and if so, what module