Pride Unbroken & The Worthiness Recalibration (redundant?)

[Forexpreneur]

@subliminalguy

Redundancy is not the issue on the table. This issue I really sense is … what are you afraid of?

Thank you very much @subliminalguy. I actually figured this feeling out and this is very core. When feelings like this come up, which isn’t that common these days, I ask “when did I feel like this last?”.

I do have a long history of abandonment, but some of it is just life, not really abandonment. People move. You move and lose friends. As you get older people die. I experienced the death of a loved one when I was quite young. And then right afterwards my family moved me to a completely different State.

Then a month later my Mom and her family kicked out my father and then she divorced him. Then a month later my Mom went to work and I never really saw her for almost a year. I had to make new friends at school obviously, so I “lost my old friends”. All of this in just a few months. I didn’t have a sibling to talk to, to try and figure things out. I was an only child until I was 12.

Jump forward to today. I lost the love of my life instantly due to a drunk driver (the other person, not my partner) a couple years ago. My best friend has stage 4 cancer. I think the one that’s kind of hitting home is a close friend of mine just lost her mother. My Mom is knocking on the door of being 80. Deep down, I have that same feeling I had when I was a little boy and everything hit at once.

I’m not afraid of being alone. Hell, I did just fine. But I don’t like the abandonment. Really, a lot of it is perceived abandonment, and I know it. But it’s coming from those feelings as a little boy that just never got healed. I survived and moved on and even thrived at times.

But I don’t like the feeling of perceived abandonment. That’s the fear. That’s what I’m afraid of. l don’t want to feel the unresolved fear of abandonment I had as a little boy during that time.

[Lion]

@Forexpreneur

realized that Pride Unbroken is actually listed a Status module. How do Status modules work differently than an emotionally healing module?

Status modules raise your status. It is possible that Pride Unbroken focuses on the positive aspects of your pride which helps you feel more self-esteem znd worthy. Which in turn increases status.

Sometimes emotional healing isn’t necessary. Or we prefer to simply focus on another method of improving ourselves instead of emotional healing.

Or maybe we have done enough emotional healing and now want to focus on another path like status.

[subliminalguy]

I love your honesty

[Forexpreneur]

So essentially changing your focus of something and looking at it in a different way?

[Lion]

@Forexpreneur

So essentially changing your focus of something and looking at it in a different way?

Yes. We have many negative associations wifh pride. But pride can also be a positive attribute if taken in the right spirit. To build ourselves rather than feeling better than others. Taking pride in our journey and our achievements sp far rather than beating ourselves up constantly for our failures.

[Forexpreneur]

Thank you very much Lion. It’s very interesting as I dig deeper into my life with these subs. Money is like that also and I find the connection of general financial wealth and worthiness as an individual is so intertwined.

It actually boggles my mind because it seems so simple on the surface, but it’s very complex. But so is the human experience. LOL.

[subliminalguy]

I just saw something.

The Worthiness Calibration, for me, reminds me of things I’ve had and lost. I say I don’t feel worthy… but the truth is that I’m afraid I’ll feel small and helpless again…if I lose them.

I have a few possessions in my life right now which I paid good money for. But I’ve never used them.

The logic? If I don’t own it or take active possession of them, then…I can avoid the feeling of that old pain if it’s lost.

That’s my truth.

[Forexpreneur]

I just love people on here man. It’s such a positive, open, and healing space. It’s very powerful. I’ve been open too, but I want to thank you for your openous and friendly interactions we’ve had.

@subliminalguy

I have a few possessions in my life right now which I paid good money for. But I’ve never used them.

Would any of those be a Ferrari? Man, I’ve seen so many older Ferrari’s with so few miles.

[subliminalguy]

Well, one could lead to that, but I’m not a real car guy. One of the things I have and have never used is a trading software that earns 1.75% per day, all on autopilot. I don’t do anything but just let it work. Over 5 years back, I was scrambling online, seeking to find easy ways to make money, and I came across this guy. He’s been creating this stuff for years, making money hand over fist, but… but nothing. I’ve done absolutely nothing with it so far. I keep thinking when this happens, or when that happens, or when I have enough money to throw in, I’ll do it.

But the truth is that I’m afraid of feeling alone and scared again, of remembering losing my brother.

That is the core wound. That is my holdup in most of my life’s choices.

To where, honestly, I’m considering rebuilding my Phoenix custom to include pride unbroken.

[Forexpreneur]

Wow. That’s powerful.

After this conversation it’s become obvious to me, my feelings were correct in being drawn to Pride Unbroken. I also know this will be a custom I’ll run for a couple of years. This stuff needs to heal. It’s more of a core than I was expecting.

Thank you @subliminalguy .

[Lion]

@Forexpreneur

After this conversation it’s become obvious to me, my feelings were correct in being drawn to Pride Unbroken.

Intuitions, especially for choosing subliminal titles (and customs) are usually correct. I think that’s why most people have a hunch 9n what to run and their curiosity is piqued on that particular title/modules.

Something in us genuinely calls out to us regarding that and it is our subconcious talking.

[Forexpreneur]

@Lion

Something in us genuinely calls out to us regarding that and it is our subconcious talking.

I absolutely agree with you. I’ve only been running these subs for less than a year (Nov 21 will be one year) but I’ve responded to them very well and it has helped to clear my mind to actually listen to my gut instincts instead of writing things off as coincidence.

I’m currently running PEACE name embedded, along with RICH Trader name embedded. PEACE continues to blow my mind. Subtle but relentless in tearing down my old constructs and ways of thinking.

Thank you also @Lion . I greatly appreciate your help, not just this time, but you’ve helped with other questions also. I just want to let you know, I don’t take your knowledge and help for granted. I sincerely appreciate you.

[Philemon]

@Lion

Yes. We have many negative associations wifh pride. But pride can also be a positive attribute if taken in the right spirit.

There is a very big difference between being prideful and being proud.

Just the dictionary definitions highlight that difference very well:

Prideful: Having an excessively high opinion of oneself

Proud: Feeling deep pleasure or satisfaction as a result of one’s own achievements, qualities, or possessions or those of someone with whom one is closely associated.

For me the important distinction comes in not comparing. If you are very inteligent and completed an intelectual task very well you can be proud of your work well done. Being prideful will tell you that you are more inteligent than others and you shouldn’t listen to “lesser” opinions. (extreme example)

[Lion]

I very muxh agree with you, @Philemon.

@Forexpreneur - i appreciate your presence on this forum since you always approach things with an open mind and gratefulness. You also reflect on your thoughts and actions (similar to @subliminalguy) and come out from that with wisdom.

And since journaling is part of the trifecta of success at SC (the trifecta being Subliminal Listening + Action + Journaling), am sure this will help you go far.

[heartmadeiron]

@Lion

I appreciate your presence on this forum since you always approach things with an open mind and gratefulness. You also reflect on your thoughts and actions (similar to @subliminalguy) and come out from that with wisdom.

That something I really like about this community
Seeing grown man express generate appreciation and support for each other.

@Forexpreneur

I’ve only been running these subs for less than a year

I admire your commitment. That’s definitely something I aspire to.

[subliminalguy]

@Forexpreneur,

This abandonment issue is the hardest one I’ve ever faced, even where I’m trying to avoid thinking about it today while I’m at work.

I’m just kind of off since this is actually the cornerstone of everything I’ve both avoided and attacked all of my life. It’s the pain point.

With that, I admit that I’m scared, but maybe I should really focus on that using subliminals. As a person who loves easy answers, this one is easy. But but but it’s scary.

As I began writing this, I remember feeling the value of a group. We all may be going through the same stuff, but feeling not alone helps tremendously.

Thank you for raising this issue up. Truly.

[Forexpreneur]

@subliminalguy

Thank you for raising this issue up. Truly.

You are very welcome my friend. I look forward to continue to read about your journey in your journal.

[Forexpreneur]

@Lion

And since journaling is part of the teifectas of success at SC (the teifectas being Subliminal Listening + Action + Journaling), am sure this will help you go far.

Thank you @Lion This was a lesson to me that I should include the really deep stuff in my journal. This was healing both for myself and @subliminalguy .

Plus, thanks to @subliminalguy I learned a new question that absolutely cuts to the chase and makes me seriously ponder my feelings

@subliminalguy

This issue I really sense is … what are you afraid of?

So simple yet one I couldn’t ignore.

[SaintSovereign]

@Forexpreneur

I was wondering if adding Pride Unbroken & The Worthiness Recalibration in one custom would be redundant?

It genuinely feels as though they are working on the same area of struggle but are going about it in very different ways? I do understand that The Worthiness Recalibration is focused on financial issues, but I also am aware that others have used it very effectively for life issues also. I’m working on both so it will stay.

From qOS:

Summary

No, they wouldn’t be redundant. They both rest on a sense of inherent worth, but each one deals with a different injury and points that worth in a different direction.

Pride Unbroken is about worth that was damaged by how other people treated you. That includes being left, ignored, passed over, or made to feel you never mattered. It may help you let go of the worthlessness, powerlessness and indignation those experiences leave behind. It may also help you reconnect with a healthy, positive pride that doesn’t depend on how anyone treated you. Its territory is relational: your worth in the face of other people.

The Worthiness Recalibration is about worth that has become tied to earning. That is the quiet belief that abundance has to be justified through struggle, achievement or validation. It may help you release those beliefs, so that receiving feels natural rather than something you have to qualify for. Its territory is your worth in relation to what you allow yourself to receive.

Put simply, one addresses “I wasn’t valued” and the other addresses “I have to earn it.” The two often feed each other. Someone who was made to feel insignificant frequently ends up believing they have to prove themselves before they’re allowed to have anything. Running both in one custom covers the same root from two sides and doesn’t repeat the same work.

One honest note on The Worthiness Recalibration. The self-worth it nurtures is real and general in nature, but the module is aimed at wealth and receiving. I’d treat any wider life benefit as a welcome extension, not as what it’s built for. Since you’re working on both areas, it earns its place. Pride Unbroken is the one carrying the broader, personal side of the worth work in your build.

[Forexpreneur]

Thank you very much SaintSoverign. Such a powerful explanation. I am absolutely looking forward to this build.

It is going to be some serious work but since I plan to run this for a couple of years I’m ready for it and am looking forward to letting the true me shine.