Ive always had trouble with that concept “friendzone” its very weird to me.
Attraction should be mutual, if you are attracted to someone and that person is not attracted to you, thats ok. The other person is under no obligation to reciprocate, what is she supposed to do, just say yes because you want to?!
The same applies if its reversed, you are not under any obligation to feel attracted or do anything with someone else, just because that person is attracted to you.
Its a boundary issue nothing more.
My struggles in the past were rooted in the fact that I evaluated my personal value in, whether or not attractive women liked me back. Of course leading to low self steem and a huge amount of pressure on myself to perform.
Later in life I learned to detach from those toxic beliefs and gave them no more power over myself… Self validation of course is something crucial and Wanted and WB helped a whole lot with that.
A couple of days ago and maybe as an effect of WDB (any coments about it @SaintSovereign ), Ive been teasing myself with the idea of feeling strong pleasure connected to the idea of “rejection”, so much that the concept got reframed into “A person saying no, is just someone missing out on the experience, why waste time on them?.. Theres more adventures to be had somewhere else”.
Somehow in my mind the idea of getting a “no” feels as arousing as the idea of having sex.
It makes me laugh cause it makes me feel free to move in any direction without a care of getting a yes or a no… its about having fun, flirting, meeting new people… and incresing the odds of meeting women that are really worth it for me to invest my time/energy/experience…
Im looking for a balanced interaction. I know what I have to offer and Im not willing to conform with “less than”.