Would it go well by counterbalancing the codependency or would the custom be unusable coz everyone is afraid?
Also, i’m dealing with a situation where fear is used against me to comply wid others (basically getting threatened). Will fearsome help me deal wid this situation or is Negative Energy Transmutation better as I’ll be able to transmute the fear into something positive?
I can only pick one (only one space remains in my custom). Negative energy transmutation or Fearsome.
What’s your whole custom looking like?
Is this codependency with a partner? Or a group of people (2+)?
Its general codependency (probably high empathy). I value other’s needs over mine. Custom:
and check out the edit:
I understand your challenge as I faced such a challenge as well. The whole thing comes with mental boundaries and generally it’s staring right at your face / your gut is saying something but we ignore it - and then regret it. I have made a custom as well, similar along the lines of yours but with different cores - KB NEHE & EB.
The only thing I want you to think & reflect is - Do I want to deal with this through making the best out of my current environment OR Do I want to change my environment?
Sometimes the environment can’t be changed but you can reinforce boundaries which gets others to often respect you.
To me, it seems like your approach is by fighting fear with fear (iykwim). Think about it and let me know, I can perhaps guide you better then.
my custom has alot of healthy relationship building modules. And has fearsome, fenrir if that doesnt work out. Isn’t this a good way to go about things?
That sounds very complete. Are you sure about DRR then? Because DRR is focused on healing, maybe something like EB - Emperor Black (Boundaries) could serve you well - although you limit yourself to just 2 months.
What I’m evaluating here is, how long term will you be able to use this custom? Because if it’s short time - I would suggest try out WTP - extremely effective.
You can maybe add WTP instead of DRR ST4.
It’s just about flexibility - you can always run DRR ST4 Mainstore title and cycle it out once you’re done with it and continue to grow with WTP in your custom.
NEHE is a great module, I have enjoyed it from Day 1.
I have been running drrst4 + sanguine since release of drrst4. But i’m facing issues that aren’t me (turns out my family has gotten used to breaking my boundaries for such a long time that, they just do it out of habit). So, I’m making drrst4 + sanguine + fearsome,fenrir,boundary, negative energy transmutation to heal while dealing wid these social issues.
I think WTP would be a better choice personally. But if you think DRR is what is better for you, you should go for it. Sometimes we have an idea of how we want to go with it and it’s best to follow your approach while taking in feedback - which I’m sure you’re doing.
DRR Stage 1 Healed my past (18 Days) - hence I can see how you think DRR would help you.