Is asking how people can afford things hurting me in some way? Having the wrong mindset and beliefs?
You arenât really asking. Itâs more a statement and it never leads you to answers or clarity.
Best to focus on useful questions you can get clarity from.
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Not really.
But it might be wasting your time.
I always think that if a person is trying to hit a target, the better approach is to sight the target, aim, and shoot.
A much less efficient approach is to spend all day listing out the 10000 things that you will be trying to Not Hit.
âNot-Hittingâ the fire hydrant, and the car across the street, and the house next door, and the street sign?
Nothing wrong with that, but itâd probably be better to just find the target and focus on hitting that.
A better question would be,
âWhat are some brainstorming ideas for how I could bring in 20% more income by 2 to 3 months from now?â
Another:
âWhat kinds of comments and feedback about myself, positive or negative, do I routinely get from other people?â
Positive or negative; those comments are going to give you insight into your uniqueness and your particular genius. Genius does not mean super-intelligence. It means ways that you think, process, and perceive that most or all other people do not.
Thatâs always going to point the way to areas of Value that you have to offer. And it can be anything, including, âugh! you are so gross!â haha. Youâre probably not getting that, but even if you were, there would be some treasure in it.
Try asking those two questions:
âWhat are some brainstorming ideas for how I could bring in 20% more income by 2 to 3 months from now?â
âWhat kinds of comments and feedback about myself, positive or negative, do I routinely get from other people?â
And what you may or may not know. The asking of the question is more important than your first (or fiftieth) answer.
Just leave the questions there and keep them open.
Like a bird bath.
Leave it open.
And see what birds come to bathe in it.
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I would say yeah it can. If every time you anchor a negative feeling towards the freedom of spending money like that you just condition yourself to associate abundance with negativity. Itâs subtle but it can add up over time and then be projected onto a lot of other things.
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Hopefully Genesis will help change that .
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100% will. That little bit of insight comes straight from Genesis. Itâll restructure your relationship with money. Iâm at a point now where I donât get as much anxiety when spending money.
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Iâm a bit envious. I get anxiety just thinking about what I have or more usually donât have in my bank account
Iâm not going to ask you how long that took for you because Iâm somehow starting to understand how everything is different for everyone. Not in a bad way but there are so many variables at play that comparison is pointless. As much as it hurts its a harsh truth I have to accept for my own sanity
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Youâll get there. Just be open to thinking about money differently and youâll be on your way. I know it sounds simplistic and naive but money issues are very much like a trauma. It can be hard to break out of that mindset if youâve never experienced abundance. Which again is why NSE is so important.
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Totally get the existential fear/dread angle.
It kinda gets back to the whole letting go thing.
A good friend of mine helped me a lot to change my perspective couple of years back. Besides pragmatic thought processes for immediate effect the stuff we think about and struggle with are the fights (inner and outer) we choose to fight. We often pretend that they are god given, dictated by circumstance.
In 99% they are not. We choose them. We choose them to confirm the assumptions we hold about us, the world, our place in it and how it all works.
Especially envy is a shit driver. Anger one can channel and use, but envy has really no direction, it is frustratingly static and can be quite paralyzing at its core.
He kinda told me a technique, similar to STOP that IIRC @Fractal_Explorer alluded to a while back: When one starts these struggles, bad thoughts, take a step back, just look at the struggle, the tension and where it puts you. What it describes about you, your world, how it functions around you. And that is really the only thing that matters. Put the total focus on yourself and then decide if you want to fight this struggle and if you want this to be a defining element of your reality (with envy it is: âThe others have more than me and I feel shit about.â but also with the whole questioning the microloops thing it is: âIt is impossible to believe that this technique can help me.â which is kinda negative priming and IMO selfsabotage.)
With a clear negative connotation, at least in my experience, it gets much easier to decide against fighting these struggles and letting them go.
(Sorry for OT.)
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havenât you just basically enumerated their core modules?
Honestly, no. It never hurts to ask those kinds of questions.
I canât afford customs either. If I could I would probably be waiting for some of the new upgrades anyway to see if they filled the hole.
Iâm just lucky that while I was still employed I managed to buy more than half the store. Those who can afford customs right now in various countries are the otherwise âluckyâ ones.
Make use of what you have. You probably have a lot more at your disposal than what you think you do. Getting a proper plan together that will work in conjunction with the subs is key. I tend to think the RICH/NR subs are a lot more underrated than I have imagined in the past.
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Also maybe a controversial opinion but using customs without getting a firm grounding in the standard title is a recipe for disaster. Especially when you throw in the variability of all the modules. As someone who spent quite a bit of money on customs @James if I could go back in time and do it all over again I never would have touched them. I had no business running those things and I set myself up with a lot of frustration and overload
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YOU?? if you canât, then I donât even know what to think and to sayâŚ
I think I know a bit how you feel.
Barely enough money to survive, donât know, how Iâm supposed to pay some bills, donât know what to do career wise, how to earn more money, how to pay for customs Iâd love to build.
But as with most things consistency is key.
It took me 9 months on GM to find a career path I wanna go, that seems feasible and can bring good money. And Iâm not there yet. Iâm still looking for a way to get a job in that field.
Same with my custom. I have the debt Annihilator in it. Iâm three months into my custom journey I still have the same debts. But I started to manage them.
I was inspired a lot by @Hoppa and his approach to just trust the subs, even if you donât feel it.
I didnât feel anything from GM. But I just kept trusting it. Until I noticed change. Even if it needed 8 months of blind dedication to one title.
I donât want to shame you.
I know a bit about your history and I understand you, kinda, I think.
But youâve had a period this year, when you kept subs for a couple of cycles. You even started microlooping.
Now you got a bit more quiet, deleting posts again.
James, you got it in you. I know it. Iâve seen the James that makes great progress.
Just trust the process, trust subs, trust Fire and Saint. Chose one sub and keep it in your stack for half a year. Or a full year. You can subhop all you like with the rest. But give the one sub time to do its work properly. Give your subconscious the time to use the sub properly.
And speaking about trust. One sentence I learned in my coaching class was Donât trust your thoughts, because you donât know whose thoughts they truly are. That means weâve picked up thousands of beliefs, thoughts and opinions along the way of our life. Weâve often integrated them without reflection.
Now theyâre present, influencing our life on a daily basis. Your doubts for example. Some shit someone said to you some decades ago and you took it as your truth. And this âtruthsâ are shackling you to your dissatisfaction.
Only this weekend I realized that one of my truths was Iâm not good enough. This was somethign I picked up 30 years ago. It predetermined my life since then. But I decided to let this belief go. Iâm working on it consciously and guiding the subs to work on it specifically.
So youâve said youâre running Genesis. Itâs a great title. Run it with dedication. Print out the description and read it at least every listening day. Write down what you want to achieve with it.
Seriously, make a list or a plan, maybe manifesto.
And then, stick to it.
It has purpose, finance and courage scripting. So great qualities to change your life for the better.
Keep it up.
If you didnât read it completely, Please do.
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You guys have given great advice to @James but lets move on and stick to the topic of this thread.
James, if you have questions, please open a new thread for them in the Questions and Comments section or ask your questions in your journal (and tag anyone you want to).
Thank you 
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This.
Again, letâs not pry into otherâs financial situations. If you want advice @James, make a different thread asking for advice - not prying.
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We literally tell this same thing to new customers who want to jump straight to customs. Stick with a major title stack, build a custom once you have an idea of what you want to dial in on.
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Yeahhhhh in my case my ego was caught up in it. I thought I was at a level I actually wasnât. Also the promise of what a custom could do was very enticing and had a tendency to make me lose sight of what was practical vs the equivalent of throwing a coin into a wishing well lol
Oops no more derailment of this thread from me, missed the notice.
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When are you guys anticipating completing the upgrades to EOG, RICH, Emperor: HOM, and True Sell?
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What i have wondered for awhile is what sub or sub âeventâ will end season 2 and when will season 3 begin and will that start the new ZPU scripting or does that start in season 4 after most of the older subs are redesignedâŚ
Not asking for dates or ETAs ⌠just curiosity taking over
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