Yeah it’s a tough one for men. I’m in a men’s group, that’s helpful.
You don’t wanna be callous but also not over emotional and unpredictable like a rollercoaster
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thoughts on vulnerability
But vulnerability is about knowing how to drop into an emotional space when you’re in a container you trust and sharing what your emotions ACTUALLY ARE.
We are all being vulnerable in this forum.
It’s like this, but, without the anonymity.
My rule of thumb for vulnerability in my relationship is to tell my girlfriend about the emotions I may be afraid to tell her… but only after a period of time processing them myself & coming to some sort of realization first.
If I say “babe I lost my job I’m terrified!!!” Then she will be terrified too.
But if I say “hey babe, I lost my job, I’m terrified, but I thought about it a lot and I’m also feeling pretty excited at the new opportunity” then she’s gonna feel excited too
That saying “women want you to be vulnerable but then get mad at you when you are” could be restated to “women want you to be able to show them that you have a full emotional range, including not having the answers, but they can’t be expected to give you the answers to any of your problems and you should process your emotions first so that you can be grounded while you’re vulnerable with them, or else they’ll sense your ungroudnedness and panic because women (feminine energy) by nature is ungrounded and they come to you for groundedness so if you don’t have it they’re scared.”
First way of saying it sounds way better though
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