THAT ^ in more detail.
Another week, another men’s group.
A man left the group last night, so we had a goodbye ceremony.
He gave me some sage words as a parting gift. Very relevant to Khan.
But also relevant to PCC & HOM
I ran PCC/HOM for 4 weeks, which gave him his first impression of me. And recently, I added on Khan.
Maybe the Khan result most important to all this is total stoicism and appreciation for all the advice and words. I was grateful for everything negative he said about me, and took it as data, without taking it personally. And for the positive, I really let it into my heart.
#1) His First Impression Of Me
This was not on Khan, but, has been a CONSISTENT piece of feedback I’ve gotten ever since starting subliminals and succeeding in life.
He said: The first time I met you I was like “hmmm what’s this guy about, I can’t peg him down, he’s so confident, what’s he hiding underneath that?”
Many many people have told me they find my confidence offputting and like it can’t be real.
It is real, so, part of them just has to deal with that lol.
But I also have to adjust to that and create new ways of being to better use my confidence responsibly.
That’s why approachability aura is interesting to me - I leave bad first impressions on people.
#2) His constructive criticism: Listen More Than You Talk, it’ll make you a better friend
I was really conscious about this one for the first few weeks. I know I talk more than I listen so I tried holding back. This was REALLY going well on PCC. But I think I stopped listening to PCC and then the listen/talk ratio started to go back to talk-heavy.
#1 and #2 are feedback I get CONSISTENTLY but I was really grateful to hear it from someone I really respect and trust, and from someone who thinks very highly of me and is only giving improvements, not criticism.
#3) Be More Vulnerable, let people into your heart more
This is a tough one for me…
Am I not being vulnerable enough? Or do I just not get value out of sharing my problems with others?
I have a lot of introspection to do on this. I’ve gotten this feedback many times as well. But this one normally frustrates me.
In this case, I’m glad it’s THIS person that told me this. Because I can view it with 100% openmindedness, whereas from someone else, I would judge them and deflect the feedback.
Other people have told me the same thing and I just tell them they’re wrong, but then I realize I don’t really have self-awareness on how I’m feeling IN THE MOMENT… I always need to reflect later in the day to find out how I was feeling at the time of feeling it, that’s part of why I journal on the forum so much.
But even the people who I’ve told them were wrong, but then we persisted, had profound shifts for me.
And maybe this is why LBFH hits me like a ton of f’in bricks, but DR/Khan ST1 is light by comparison.
#4: My viewpoints and what I talk about are insanely interesting
This person loved that no matter what someone shares, I have some real value to add… not talking out my ass value, but real ways to shift that person and help them, or even just in casual conversation, I have threads in so many topics I can talk about almost anything.
We even chatted more after, and he expanded on this more and said he wanted to pick my brain more to hear what else I’ve got going on there.
So by no means was any of this negative, it was just part of the exercise, and I’m really glad for it.