PR is doing for me a very similar job EmpD does when it comes to retrospecting and introspecting. Like EmpD helps me discover and redefine my “historical” identity (my identity as a man with a difficult past), PR does the same to my “romantic/romance” identity. Both subs help me spot the gaps in those identities and fill them in, smoothing out the transformation, as both programs “target” those gaps. Those gaps seems to be causing reconciliation.
In case of PR, the main gap in my “romantic/romance identity” that is being filled right now is that most vulnerable side of me that got disappointed and hurt lots of times when I fell hopelessly in love with the “wrong” girls. Another one is my ideal woman → a holy woman that I’ve always wanted so that she can heal my wounds (traumas), and touch and lift up my heart.
I also went through those patterns that would lead me to getting heartbroken. Initially, I though they were reemerging as a part of the reconciliation and I was close to giving up on the sub since I don’t like those very old patterns that would make me helpless and miserable in the “clutches of love”. However, they seem to have got reconciled and I feel “romantically” (but also emotionally) stronger than ever before.