Just say ‘I’m curious when you decided to be the manager?’ in a light-hearted way and lead the convo by saying, ‘If I do X, then will you do Y?’
So you split the task they’re bossing you to do, so you end up working as a team and they then say yes to your request. You’re demonstrating you’re equal then. If they say no, then don’t do it, just say, ‘Okay, I’m gonna do Z instead’.
The last time I did that, it worked a treat.
Sounds like Emperor to me.
No I just don’t like telling people what to do I find the task of doing so bothersome to me. When I have been in a position to train others at work and tell em what to do I don’t like it I like focusing on what I AM going to do not what others do. I find it hard to believe you haven’t come across an individual that on some random day decided his nuts dropped and felt like telling others what to do including you on a given day. I could believe it if you’re physically imposing but if you’re not I find it hard to believe no one has attempted to challenge you at some point in your life.
I see you’re point of view along with @Skadoosh that perhaps it’s some sort of manifestation of my subconscious that’s bringing forth such scenarios. Perhaps due to me running Dragon Reborn at the moment could be a cause aswell
This is what made me bring up the question to the forum. The guy was right in the suggestion so I almost felt sucked into having to do it to avoid the insecure aspect of it.
Thing is I don’t feel internally weak. Quite the opposite actually nowadays. So not sure why a situation like that arose. It’s weird because with that individual it was the first time it ever happened usually its vice versa. It’s almost like he woke up that day and decided his nuts dropped and was gunning for me. Lol
If it’s a one-time occurrence, let it go. Maybe he was going through something. But if it happened because if was already seeing you as a possible target, then it’s will probably happen again. If it happens again, you will need to put him back in his place. Quietly but assertively.
The thing with people is that, if you let disrespect slide a couple of times, it becomes a habit.
I was internally weak before I ran Emperor. Now, I’m still my usual jovial self but you can’t bring disrespect my way without paying a price. I smile but I carry a big stick.
So since becoming Alpha you haven’t come across some fake alpha trying to boss you around.?
Ignore what he is doing.
Don’t say he is bossing you around. Does he have that power?
Why are you feeling bossed by him ?
Yeah it was one of those “what got into this guy.?” moments but it hasn’t happened since. I feel DR is taking care of my issues revolving this aspect of life. The reason I wrote the thread was how to counteract the order in a way to take back my power thats being attempted to be taken away. I’ve thought about saying something along the lines of “I know that already”
That’s my issue,how to combat specific scenarios without coming across as childish and aggressive like you recommend to avoid.
The reason why I recommend not being aggressive in a professional setting is because it could be cause for termination. It’s not worth jeopardizing a job over some asshole’s erratic behavior.
What I would do is
1- Stand my ground calmly. “Hey! Dude! You can’t talk to me like that. Be respectful”. Then I’ll move on from him
2- I’m going HR or to a manager. Not to snitch but because it’s always better to have HR on your side than against you.
3 - Establish YOUR rules. When/if HR or your manager sets up a meeting to deescalate things, make sure you let the person know your boundaries. “I respect you, in return you’re going to have to talk to me with respect. We don’t have to be friends but I won’t accept any unprofessional or disrespectful behavior”.
And yes I’ll say that in front of HR or a manager. 