Thanks for all the input and advice guys! Definitely have some practical take aways. @Skadoosh I think you hit the nail on the head
As this was the biggest thing I’m seeking, not happiness or joy in work. Just looking back at myself in my early 20s there was a vibe/energy about me that was absolutely infectious, the ability to light up a room, etc. It was a state of being, rather then somthing I expierienced from anything I was doing.
That said, a couple comments here made me do a lot of reflectinng, and I think that change in my state is more tied in with my relationship and the impact it’s had on me/who I am, and how it’s prevented me from really being my full authentic self.
This is a fantastic question and more to unpack here but off the top of my mind
Simple answer
Win more, play to win more, have things you care about winning at for their own sake, have a relationship that makes you feel more masculine or leave it, look where you’re doing things for an outcome that you don’t think is possible- pick outcomes and goals that excite you and do what you need to do actually to expect it to work.
Also, if you have certain habits- you know what they are- it will make it harder for you to feel this way about life.
Subs- Khan L&W 100% for this, if you can’t run that Khan Black 1st and then Primal second.
Longer answer:
I think this is likely a big culprit. I agree that your experience of lack of energy in that situation has more to do with a fundamental orientation than any sub. Subs will help, but if your environment, life orientation, primary relationship, and circumstances don’t allow you to fully express that, then it will always get back to baseline.
I won’t address your relationship in this thread other than to say -your primary relationship should be a source of vitalizing your masculinity and sense of power/zest, and authenticity in life, and if it’s not-either you’re showing up in a way that doesn’t engender that treatment from your partner or you’re with someone who doesn’t do that.
My initial sense with you is that what would have you back on track is tied to winning, having the experience of success, crushing it, killing it, and making progress in the things that matter to you. Having that excitement and subtle expectation of being able to know your work leads to progress.
This may have to do with being social and liked, it may have to do with woman being attracted to you, I’m not saying it has to be work-related, but it has to involve the experiencing of being great at doing something that matters to you and that being recognized by you and/or others/ getting what you want.
You’ve been on a wealth journey, but I’d posit that in your experience, you’re compromising your values/think you have to compromise your values and/or expecting to not really ‘win’ in the way you want
Sub wise
Khan Black would synergize the best with a wealth stack and that zest for life. Every time I’ve run Khan Black my sales boost, it improves manifestation for me, and need to figure out a way to incorporate into my stack.
Khan: Love and War obviously would do this more than any other sub-as you said in your own experience, but it may not work with your stack
Primal could have things more fun and may calibrate well with wealth subs- Saint previously said Primal and TWTP in and of themselves could make someone a millionaire.
But if I were you, this would be my first orientation.
What about my relationship has me feel more alive, and what has me think life is already set? What can I do to shift this?
I’d orient your job as capital for something bigger if you don’t love it as is. Put a why behind your wealth goals that excites you. Or pick a long term work goal that involves the things you love- music, people, crowds, athletics, etc. hospitality. Maybe your path to wealth is running clubs, restaurants, or adventure boot camps.
What are the things you want to do NOW that won’t derail your larger goals but are still really enlivening and fun? Put that stuff in your week.
A little more esoteric:
I think the big thing you’re talking about is that feeling of I’m the man and about to conquer/explore the world because there is so much fantastic stuff to see/do/have. That is all about masculinity, in my opinion. A big part of what fuels masculinity (as vitality and aliveness) is success in purpose(which can be but doesn’t have to be business) and the right relationship with sexual/romantic partners.
This. Not about happiness, joy, love, passion, but that internal feeling that happens when you are a man living on his edge. I think I’ve put a lot of the blame on my relationship in a sense of preventing that, as I look back to my cold approach days when I most remember that feeling, heck even bartending etc when I was sorrounded by women all the time, but ultimately it boiled down to me pushing myself at that time to do hard, uncomfortable shit.
That said, there is definitely a lot to think through in that aspect of my life.
